Do Not Talk “Behind” Someone’s Back - By: Lenny Chapman
One of the greatest temptations known to man is that of talking negatively about someone behind their back. Satan rears his ugly head with joy each time someone chooses to partake in this destructive act. Talking negatively about someone without them being around is a very easy thing to do, and that is why we must always be on our guard standing against this type of behavior.
Why is this behavior so prevalent? I believe that there are many reasons why this happens:
1) Without the person spoken about being around, it eliminates the conflict that would occur by them defending themselves of the charges.
2) The pain and hurt caused by the negative charges are not visibly seen in the face of the one being spoken about.
3) The one making the negative claim is trying to gain a friend by tearing down the reputation and character of another.
4) Elevating ones self by lowering others
5) Greedy personal gain
There are other reasons why someone would choose to do this; all of which serve no positive purpose. If we look into the life of Jesus we can see that He was not one to talk behind someone’s back. He certainly had much to say and some was quite negative. But let us never loose sight of the fact that when Jesus spoke a negative word about someone, it was truthful (which most times makes the comment hurt so badly), and it was said directly to the person in effort that it would make a difference and that person might change in their ways, (Mat. 12:25-30; 38-45; 23:1-36).
When was the last time you spoke negatively behind the back of someone? What was the reason? What response did you hope to get out of it? By spending a moment analyzing why we do things, it will help us to better ourselves in the long run. That is what Christianity is all about, following God’s will, and in return making ourselves better, positive people and influences in the world of corruption. We are to stand apart from the world and its behaviors. We are to be seen as different. We are to be the ones that God counts on to have an outstretched arm to help people get their footing and stability in life, not a person with one arm outstretched and the other holding a knife.
God does not look kindly upon the behavior of “backbiting”. He puts it in a class with all other forms of evil doings which are unnatural to godliness. “And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them” (Rom. 1:28-30).
Let us do our best to always seek out the good in people. If we focus in that area, we will find ourselves with much less desire to share the shortcomings and weaknesses behind the backs of people, and much more desirous and effective in the Lord’s work. We must always keep in mind that we all have shortcomings and weaknesses, and it is no fun having them exploited in conversation when we are not around.